Twenty Lessons for Twenty Years

So…today is the big day. My twentieth birthday. 

And if I’m totally honest, I feel no different than I did yesterday.

Nonetheless, in the tradition of posting a blog-per-birthday, I decided to write about twenty things that I’ve learned over the last twenty years.

And I hope you enjoy reading them!

  1. Trust God – I know that I used this one last year, but it is still so relevant! Every year life changes, and we are faced with new challenges, trials, and oppositions. Nonetheless, in the midst of this God is always constant. He was, and is and is to come (Revelations 1:8) and He never changes or acts inconsistently. Through all of life’s trials, we can always turn to Him for guidance and direction.
  2. Hold onto your true friends – As we go throughout life, it’s likely that we’re going to meet tons of people. Some are going to enter our lives and some are going to exit. Nonetheless, through all of this it is so important that we keep our true friends close! Friends are hard to come by, and when you come across the ones that will stand by you no matter what, don’t let them go! They’re one of life’s rare gems.
  3. Stay true to yourself – God has crafted each one of us into something unique and special. We were all created with innate worth and potential. And, in a world where everyone is trying so hard to fit in, it is so much better to stand out – making the choice everyday to be true yourself and live your life with confidence in Christ!
  4. Stay close to family – The older you get, the more you realize how important your family really is – and how short of a time that you have with them. Make the most of the time that you have with your parents, grandparents, and relatives. More than likely, they have a lot of wisdom that they’ve obtained over the course of their lives – and they’ll always be your biggest cheerleaders!
  5. Appreciate the small moments – Because one day, those small moments will be big moments.
  6. Chase your dreams – In the words of a song by 33 Miles, “You only get just one time around, you only get one shot at this…one try, one ride, one life.” Don’t be afraid to make this life everything that you want to to be – and go after your goals with the confidence that you can achieve them.
  7. Working hard pays off – Sometimes, hard work isn’t easy or fun in the moment, but it pays off in the long run. Put your all into every project, every job, and every assignment that comes your way. I promise you won’t regret it!
  8. Make a difference – Every day we are given the chance to make a difference in someone’s life – no matter how small it might seem. Don’t waste the opportunities that God has given you to be a light for Him, and make someone’s day a little brighter.
  9. Hard times never last forever – Each one of is going to face trials and tribulations in this life. It’s part of living in a fallen world. But we’ve all been there, and it will get easier. Don’t forget to reach out to God, family, and friends during these times. Sometimes, we all need to ask for help, and we all need somebody to talk to.
  10. Don’t be ashamed to rest – None of us were made to keep going 24/7. There’s nothing wrong with resting, and taking a break after a day of hard work. We all need rest sometimes, so we’re refreshed to keep going in our daily lives and tasks.
  11. Life is more than the things you post – In the modern world, it can be so tempting to constantly be on the lookout for opportunities to post a picture on Instagram, or a quote on Twitter, but life is so much more than that. Don’t forget to live in the moment, and forget about your social media for a little while.
  12. Age is just a number – Sometimes, once you get into your teens, birthdays can get a little scary. You’re faced with the realization that you’re getting older, and you have a lot of life decisions ahead of you. But sometimes, it’s best not to focus on the number, and just do what you need to do each day, which brings me to my next point…
  13. Take one day at a time – Jesus actually gives this same piece of advice in Matthew 6:34. He says, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” If you take one day at a time, life becomes a lot easier to handle.
  14. Find something that you love to do – For me, hobbies have always been a great way to relax and have fun. They help us to de-stress from the responsibilities of the day and give us an outlet to pour our energy into. Personally, my main hobby is writing—but for you, it may be any number of things, from singing, to sewing, to soccer. Find out what it is – I promise you won’t regret it.
  15. Don’t make a SO your whole life – For those of you who don’t know, ‘SO‘ is a trendy term for a ‘significant other‘. And the reason I use this term is because it’s not just a girl problem—guys do this too. Since I’ve gotten to college, I’ve seen more and more people get so consumed in a boyfriend or girlfriend that they forget about everything else around them. There’s nothing wrong with dating, but never get so wrapped up in the person you’re dating that you forget the other important areas of your life.
  16. Stand up for what you believe in – Never be afraid to use your voice and stand up for what you believe in. It can often be scary to share your views, whether they be a belief in God, a political opinion, or a cause that you feel strongly about, but it’s so worth it. Speaking up can make a real difference, and they say that one spark starts a fire. Never be afraid to speak out.
  17. But do this with gentleness and respect – Branching off of the last topic, as important as it is to stand up for your beliefs, it is also important that you do this with gentleness and respect (1 Peter 3:15). It is important that we respect those around us, and present each of our beliefs and views with love.
  18. Don’t be afraid to try new things – I’ll be the first to admit that I hate change. Nonetheless, sometimes change can be good. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try new things.
  19. Take the time to appreciate beauty – Every day we are surrounded by beauty in this world – whether it be a kind word or a beautiful flower that we see outside. Take the time to appreciate these things, or as the old saying goes, ‘take time to smell the roses‘.
  20. Celebrate life’s accomplishments – You know, like writing a post to celebrate getting older. That sort of thing.😉

There you go! Twenty lessons for twenty years! I hope you enjoyed reading these, and if you have anything that you’d like to add, feel free to write it in the comments section! I’d love to hear your thoughts!😃


Hey everyone, big news! My Mom, Saved By Grace2009, wrote a guest post for my site! Because she is older than many of my readers, I decided to ask her to write it on wisdom. I believe that she has a lot of wisdom and she did a great job with the topic! So, without further ado, here is my mom’s post! 😊


First I wanted to thank my daughter Courtney for graciously inviting me to Guest Blog. I was immensely humbled when Courtney asked me to write on the topic of “Wisdom”

Subsequently, I have been praying about this for quite sometime and therefore a little late in completing this ~ please forgive me

As Courtney’s mom, I am much older and therefore I have experienced and learned a lot over the years I have walked on this earth. Therefore, I am always happy to help others by sharing what I have gleaned in my life and share the knowledge the Lord has graciously bestowed upon me.

However, I have been abundantly blessed because the Lord has placed the most amazing individuals in my life who took the time to bless me with their words of wisdom.

When I think of wisdom, like you the first person to come to my mind is Solomon.

Therefore I went back and read Solomon’s prayer and I learned a lot about wisdom as he was very transparent and it was obvious the attributes he possessed when asking the Lord to give him wisdom.

Solomon’s Prayer

Then Solomon said, “You have shown great lovingkindness to Your servant David my father, according as he walked before You in [b]truth and righteousness and uprightness of heart toward You; and You have [c]reserved for him this great lovingkindness, that You have given him a son to sit on his throne, as it is this day.Now, O Lord my God, You have made Your servant king in place of my father David, yet I am but a little child; I do not know how to go out or come in. Your servant is in the midst of Your people which You have chosen, a great people who are too many to be numbered or counted. So give Your servant [d]an understanding heart to judge Your people to discern between good and evil. For who is able to judge this [e]great people of Yours?”

Let’s unpack Solomon’s prayer to the Lord …

First, Solomon praised God for all He had done in the life of his father, David.

I believe wisdom is continuing to praise God every day and not forgetting all the ways the Lord has worked in our lives. Praising Him for the big and little things He orchestrates for our good.

Second, we can see that Solomon loved the Lord and trusted Him. Therefore wisdom is expressing our love to the Lord and trusting Him with our lives. This is not always easy to do because we can only see the here and now but putting our life completely in the hands of the Lord and trusting Him in all situations, Also, remember you are His masterpiece, fearfully & wonderfully made in His image. The Lord loves you and He does have a plan for your life. In the good times and bad … wisdom is loving and trusting the Lord with all your heart and not relying on your own understanding.

Thirdly, we see that Solomon is grateful for the position that he holds here on earth. Solomon realizes and understands that without the Lord he would have nothing. Everything we are and all that we have comes from the Lord.

Next, wisdom is” asking” the Lord to supply you with “wisdom” specifically what you need to know and understand to make an impact here on earth for His glory. I believe courage would be added to that as well because having the knowledge is the beginning and then partaking in the action that follows is crucial.

Lastly, we can see that Solomon is humble. I believe humbling ourselves is where wisdom begins. We cannot begin to gain wisdom or knowledge without humility.

Humility is not a common character trait we often see but I believe if we truly want to gain wisdom then we need to humble ourselves.

To conclude, every day is a new experience. When we begin the day clothed in humility, read our Bible to gain knowledge, and courageously do what we know is right in the eyes of the Lord … loving Him and praising Him. Then I believe the Lord will bless us with wisdom.

If we ask the Lord … He will answer ….

Sometimes wisdom is gleaned through living life and other times I believe we can humbly ask the Lord to give us the wisdom we need in our life.

God bless you always !