#AmbivertProblems

Recently I learned something fairly interesting about myself.

Something shocking, that shook the very corners of my mind.

I am not fully extraverted. 

Instead, I’m an ambivert (in case you’re wondering, this does not mean I have special powers).

What is an ambivert, you ask? According to the Myers Briggs personality test, an ambivert is sort of a hybrid between an introvert and an extravert. It’s when you’re too introverted to be extraverted and too extraverted to be introverted. So…you fit nowhere.

I actually figured this out recently through a discussion with my mom. Both her and I came out as extraverted on the Meyers Briggs personality test a couple of years back. Nonetheless, it was sort of a mystery to me why she always seemed so much more outgoing than I was. It wasn’t that I was shy—I grew out of that in high school. It also wasn’t that I didn’t like being around people—honestly, I love interacting with others.

So, what was my deal? Why is it that I sometimes suddenly get quiet in social settings, or sometimes need to go to my room after a long day out of the house? Apparently, it’s because I can function like both an introvert and an extravert. Because I literally got almost half and half every time on the test, I have tendencies of both types within my personality.

And this is what it looks like in real life.

1. I can relate to both introvert and extravert problems. 

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I literarely go crazy if there’s silence for a long period of time. In a social setting, I prefer that at least one person in the group is talking, and when I’m alone, I like to play music for background noise. On the other hand, I’m not always going to be the one to initiate small talk. I often strongly prefer listening to talking, unless I have something important to say, and sometimes get energized simply by watching other people talk. I get energy from being around people, but in social environments, I often come off as more of an introvert

2. Depending on who I’m around, my extraversion levels can go way up or way down. 

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I’m not the same level of “talkative” around every person that I meet. When I’m with my closest friends, or talking with my family, I can be super extraverted. However, when I’m in a room full of strangers, I immediately get worn out and quiet. It’s not that I’m not open to meeting new people—I totally am. I just feel less energized. It takes more out of me to be social, and sometimes, I need sort of a ‘social hiatus‘. I shut down, daydream, and go into my own internal world—often without even realizing it, in order to try to quickly ‘recharge‘. I need a burst of energy so that I can keep going.

3. On the other hand, I sometimes shut down around people I know. 

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If I’ve been out of the house for a long time, in a super talkative and high paced environment, I sometimes get quiet regardless of who I’m with. Like in the last scenario, I don’t do it on purpose, and I’m often really enjoying myself. But I have a difficultly keeping my energy levels up. I can’t think of anything to say and I start to feel as if I had just run a marathon. I get a boost of energy when I first get to the destination, but after a while, that energy levels begins to wane.

4. I often crave deeper connections, but don’t quite know how to get there 

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As an ambivert, I function best when when I’m around people that I have a deep, meaningful connection with. I value close friendships and ties between family members, and feel happiest when I’m around people who I know like the back of my hand. Nonetheless, getting to that place isn’t always easy for me. Between being somewhat private by nature, and an ambivert, it can be hard for me to forge close friendships—especially when I’m around a lot of people I don’t know very well.

5. Sometimes, I honestly don’t know what I want 

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When you walk the fine line between being energized around people and getting drained after being around them too long, trying to figure out what you need at the moment can be a real challenge.

6. Nonetheless, despite all of that, there are still perks to the ambivert life. I can relate to both introverts and extraverts and appreciate both time with people and time alone. 

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“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14 

How about you? Do you function more as an extravert, an introvert, or an ambivert? I’d love to hear about you guys in the comments below! 

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A Poem About Adulting (Part Two)

Good morning y’all,

I wrote sort of a heavy post yesterday, as I was frustrated trying to come up with a new blog topic and struggling with some personal things I’m dealing with in my own life. Thus, I would like to summarize my thoughts today in the form of a much lighter poem about adulting.

Please don’t take this post too seriously, as it’s meant to be comical.

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Job, job, where can I find you?

As the resumes fly here and there 

I am looking for one, searching for one anywhere 

At the store, in the morgue, oh job, you must be somewhere 

Taxes, taxes, the next thing 

Why must you be so confusing? 

With your numbers and your fancy words 

Your attempts to trip me up with your worth 

College, college, when will you start?

In my gap semester, it’s already March

With the essays and the homework that I miss so much 

Hopefully you’ll start soon, with any luck

Friends, friends, with too much to do 

When will I be able to hang out with you? 

With your classes, jobs, and miles away 

When will you come back to hang? 

TV, TV, my only hope 

To get me through this crazy road 

With your Netflix shows and weekly airings 

As my life seems to be disappearing 

I’ll get through it, oh yes I will 

Yes, before I know it, I’ll be over the hill. 

– By Courtney M. 

Feel free to post this to your blog, just as long as you link back to 1timothy412girl.com!

I promise to get back to more substantial posts soon!😜

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Thirty Day Blogging Challenge #2: Day Seventeen

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Day Seventeen: What Makes You Laugh? 

Oh, how many ways I could answer this question. Honestly, as serious as I can sometimes let myself be, I love laughing. When life is hitting the ceiling fan and everything is going crazy, there’s no better feeling than allowing yourself to laugh. Because I could honestly answer this question with So. Many. Things. I’m going to make a list. Hopefully, at least one of these things resonates with you.

1. Sit-coms

Admittedly, I’d don’t watch a lot of modern day sit-coms, but some of the old ones were pure gold. Shows like Friends, Full House, Everybody Loves Raymond, and Boy Meets World always have a way of cheering me up. The characters are unique, the plotlines are original, and the comedy is on point. Plus, we learned a lot of great lessons from these shows, like that a break doesn’t mean breakup, what a phalangie is, and that Joey doesn’t share his food!

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2. My Friends

I think everyone has that one friend. In my case, that’s pretty much the majority of my friends. They also know how to make me laugh and keep me entertained simply by being their quirky selves. I’m honestly convinced that if someone followed us all around with a video camera, we’d get our own reality show. Or get put in an insane asylum. Whichever comes first.

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3. The Internet 

The internet always has a way of keeping me entertained—for better or for worse. Typically, on sites like Twitter, you can find anything from cats, to baby memes, to politics—all which are entertaining in their own way. If you want to hear people shout their opinions as loudly as possible, go on the internet. It will make sure you’re entertained.

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4. Life 

As an author, I spend a lot of time observing the world around me. As mom often jokes, I see life through the lens of a movie or novel, always looking for the next great plotline. When you spend that much time observing life, you notice a lot and the mundane can often become downright fascinating. Like, who invented the fork, and why? How do our brains grasp such abstract concepts? What did people do before our simplest inventions existed? If no one could talk, what would life even be like?

Yes, I actually think about these kinds of things.

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5. Myself 

Sometimes, in the midst of everything, and all of our quirkiness, we just have to learn to laugh at ourselves. After all, laughter is the best medicine, right?

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How about you? What makes you laugh? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!