How To Have With A Crush (Without Going Insane)

It happens to all of us, doesn’t it? The first butterfly. The sinking realization. The late nights agonizing over them.

The person who has suddenly taken up space in our mind and left us with one-too-many love songs on our playlist.

The person who it could never work out with, yet who leaves us with shreds of hope that someday, somehow, maybe it could.

The whole thing can be absolutely maddening sometimes. 

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We’ve all dealt with the agony of a crush at some point or another. It’s one of the few experiences we as humans deal with that’s nearly universal. It has been the topic of songs, books, movies, and TV shows. Ross’s crush on Rachel (Friends). Corey’s feelings for Topanga (Boy Meets World). Practically every Taylor Swift song ever. We have dealt with the pain of an unrequited crush.

Nonetheless, as stressful as it can be, I do believe there are some things we can do to make the whole thing a little less agonizing.

  1. Talk To Someone – One of the worst things we can do when we have a crush is to keep the whole thing bottled up inside. Oftentimes, talking with a close friend can help lessen the intensity of the situation, giving you the chance to talk through it and get some of those bottled-up-feelings out in the open. It is not always wise or feasible to confess your feelings to the person you like, but it is smart to have someone to confide in, who can help you walk through the very difficult and awkward situation of having a crush.
  2. Pray for them – One of the best way to deal with feelings that you don’t know what to do with is to channel them into something productive—and what’s more productive than prayer? It can also be wise to pray for yourself, and ask God to lead you through your circumstances with wisdom and guidance. He’s always someone we can confide in and though He may not magically make the crush disappear or bring you to a relationship with this person, He will make the whole thing easier to deal with.
  3. Trust God – God knows the entire course that our lives will take before we’re even born. He knows how many hairs we have on our head and He knows each and every one of our hopes and dreams. He also has plans for us when it comes to relationships—whether it’s a marriage and family or a call to celibacy with lots of close friends around, both which He will equip us for and give us the strength to live out. If it’s God’s will for you to be with this person, He’ll orchestrate things for you guys to be together. If it’s not, trust that He has something better for you down the road. No matter what path life takes us down, God always has our best interests at heart.
  4. Be their friend – As hard this can be when we have strong feelings for someone, sometimes it’s best to just be their friend for the time being. As much as the ‘friend-zone‘ is bemoaned as the worst situation to be in when you have a crush, I believe it is still better than nothing at all. It gives you the chance to get to know the other person on a deeper level, and if the circumstances someday allow it, it creates a great foundation for a future relationship.
  5. Don’t loose focus – One of the most frustrating things about having a crush is how distracting it can often be. It can be so easy to spend time wallowing in self-pity, watching movies, and listening to dramatic songs on replay, but it’s important to stay focused on other aspects of your life besides your crush. You have and always have had more in your life besides just them and it’s important to remember this fact. Go out with friends, accomplish some goals, and read some good books. You still have one life to live to the absolute fullest, crush or no crush.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

How about you? Do you have any on dealing with a crush? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments! 

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Author: Courtney

Christian. Bibliophile. Britt Nicole Fan. Future author and songwriter.

7 thoughts on “How To Have With A Crush (Without Going Insane)”

  1. Yeah, I’ve been here 😂 I’m probably not the best at dealing with crushes because I have an over imaginative mind. But I will say that talking it out with God and a close friend helps. If you try to make friends with a crush, do it in a casual group setting at first. That way your feelings don’t get so confused. Keep up the awesome posts!

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    1. Ha, ha, trust me your not the only one with an over imaginative mind – I’m the same way.😂And that’s good advice, to hang out with your crush in groups to make things easier on yourself. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Aw, I’m sorry Damola. I’ve been through the same thing. Sometimes it can work out to tell them how they feel, but in my current situation I can’t, so I mostly focused on that scenario in the post. I’m sure God has someone really special for you down the road, so keep trusting His timing and hang in there.🙂

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  2. Lovely post Courtney! I like how you addressed the issue headlong. These tips are definitely helpful for everyone of us who have had crushes. Most times, when it’s all over, you’d look at the person and laugh at the memory of having such a huge crush on them. 😀

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    1. Ha ha, definitely. I can relate to that – laughing about the whole thing after the fact. We’ve all been there. I’m glad to hear you found these tips helpful and relatable! Thanks for stopping by!

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